The Giving Game – Day 16

1017431_691861324179269_129714430_nThere is nothing ‘out there’ – everything is within you!


Even if you already know about Ho’oponopono, be sure you read the following story – you may discover that you understand it on a deeper level!

This is an excerpt from a book called, “Zero Limits” (which is about Ho’oponopono) by Joe Vitale and Dr. Hew Len

“Two years ago, I heard about a therapist in Hawaii who cured a complete ward of criminally insane patients–without ever seeing any of them. The psychologist would study an inmate’s chart and then look within himself to see how he created that person’s illness. As he improved himself, the patient improved.

When I first heard this story, I thought it was an urban legend. How could anyone heal anyone else by healing himself? How could even the best self-improvement master cure the criminally insane?

It didn’t make any sense. It wasn’t logical, so I dismissed the story.

However, I heard it again a year later. I heard that the therapist had used a Hawaiian healing process called ho’oponopono. I had never heard of it, yet I couldn’t let it leave my mind. If the story was at all true, I had to know more.

I had always understood ‘total responsibility’ to mean that I am responsible for what I think and do. Beyond that, it’s out of my hands. I think that most people think of total responsibility that way. We’re responsible for what we do, not what anyone else does. The Hawaiian therapist who healed those mentally ill people would teach me an advanced new perspective about total responsibility.

His name is Dr. Ihaleakala Hew Len. We probably spent an hour talking on our first phone call. I asked him to tell me the complete story of his work as a therapist. He explained that he worked at Hawaii State Hospital for four years. That ward where they kept the criminally insane was dangerous. Psychologists quit on a monthly basis. The staff called in sick a lot or simply quit. People would walk through that ward with their backs against the wall, afraid of being attacked by patients. It was not a pleasant place to live, work, or visit.

Dr. Len told me that he never saw patients. He agreed to have an office and to review their files. While he looked at those files, he would work on himself. As he worked on himself, patients began to heal.

After a few months, patients that had to be shackled were being allowed to walk freely,” he told me. “Others who had to be heavily medicated were getting off their medications. And those who had no chance of ever being released were being freed.”

I was in awe.

“Not only that,” he went on, “but the staff began to enjoy coming to work. Absenteeism and turnover disappeared. We ended up with more staff than we needed because patients were being released, and all the staff was showing up to work. Today, that ward is closed.”

This is where I had to ask the million dollar question: “What were you doing within yourself that caused those people to change?”

“I was simply healing the part of me that created them,” he said.

I didn’t understand.

Dr. Len explained that total responsibility for your life means that everything in your life – simply because it is in your life–is your responsibility. In a literal sense the entire world is your creation.

Whew. This is tough to swallow. Being responsible for what I say or do is one thing. Being responsible for what everyone in my life says or does is quite another. Yet, the truth is this: if you take complete responsibility for your life, then everything you see, hear, taste, touch, or in any way experience is your responsibility because it is in your life.

This means that terrorist activity, the president, the economy–anything you experience and don’t like–is up for you to heal. They don’t exist, in a manner of speaking, except as projections from inside you. The problem isn’t with them, it’s with you, and to change them, you have to change you.

I know this is tough to grasp, let alone accept or actually live. Blame is far easier than total responsibility, but as I spoke with Dr. Len, I began to realize that healing for him and in ho ‘oponopono means loving yourself. If you want to improve your life, you have to heal your life. If you want to cure anyone–even a mentally ill criminal–you do it by healing you.
I asked Dr. Len how he went about healing himself. What was he doing, exactly, when he looked at those patients’ files?

“I just kept saying, ‘I’m sorry’ and ‘I love you’ over and over again,” he explained.

That’s it?

That’s it.

Turns out that loving yourself is the greatest way to improve yourself, and as you improve yourself, your improve your world. Let me give you a quick example of how this works: one day, someone sent me an email that upset me. In the past I would have handled it by working on my emotional hot buttons or by trying to reason with the person who sent the nasty message. This time, I decided to try Dr. Len’s method. I kept silently saying, “I’m sorry” and “I love you,” I didn’t say it to anyone in particular. I was simply evoking the spirit of love to heal within me what was creating the outer circumstance.

Within an hour I got an e-mail from the same person. He apologized for his previous message. Keep in mind that I didn’t take any outward action to get that apology. I didn’t even write him back. Yet, by saying “I love you,” I somehow healed within me what was creating him.

I later attended a ho ‘oponopono workshop run by Dr. Len. He’s now 70 years old, considered a grandfatherly shaman, and is somewhat reclusive. He praised my book, The Attractor Factor. He told me that as I improve myself, my book’s vibration will raise, and everyone will feel it when they read it. In short, as I improve, my readers will improve.

“What about the books that are already sold and out there?” I asked.

“They aren’t out there,” he explained, once again blowing my mind with his mystic wisdom. “They are still in you.”

In short, there is no out there.

It would take a whole book to explain this advanced technique with the depth it deserves. Suffice it to say that whenever you want to improve anything in your life, there’s only one place to look: inside you.

“When you look, do it with love.”
End of excerpt.

Though this is a different ‘story,’ notice the similarity to The Golden Key by Emmet Fox. The ‘Key’ is to take your focus off of the problem and focus on God (saying something like, “God is Love” repeatedly) which ultimately means you are focusing on divine Love. In the video below Joe Vitale ultimately says that the ‘abbreviated’ version of Ho’oponopono (and his book, “Zero Limits”) is to take your thought off of the problem and think (repeatedly) “I love you.” (This is the essence of the OK Concept too… “It’s all OK” is the same as “loving what IS” – as Byron Katie would say).

Now think about applying “I love you” to EVERYTHING:  Your physical body; all of your relationships; money.

Now take this a step further. Apply “I love you” to everything on the planet – perceiving nothing as ‘good or bad’ ‘right or wrong.’ That means that whatever upsets you in the ‘bigger landscape’ from politics to corporations to the mistreatment of our environment (everything from genetically modified organisms to chemtrails to the lack of stewardship and conservation) practice saying, “I love you” to the chemicals, the people who created them and those who are releasing them onto the planet.

And don’t forget to say “I love you” to everything and everyone you love!

Remember:  There is nothing ‘out there’ – everything is within you!  So ultimately you are loving yourself and loving your own creation!


Your Gratitude Journal – “One single grateful thought raised to heaven is the most perfect prayer.” (G. E. Lessing) Be grateful for all the good in your life and all the good that surrounds you today. You can enlarge, magnify, and multiply those things by appreciating them. So what would you like more of in your life? Gratitude it. Write down six things or people you’re grateful for. Feel the gratitude.

THE SECRET TO LIVING IS GIVING: Now that you know how to double or triple your salary, here’s a bit more from Tony Robbins (if you don’t know who he is – Tony was raised in poverty and is now a billionaire – if anyone knows the ‘secret to living is giving’ it’s Tony!) “I’ve witnessed so many amazing things that happen when you give. When you get beyond your own survival and success mechanisms to a world where you’re living for more than just yourself, suddenly your fear, your frustration, your pain and unhappiness disappear. I truly believe that when we give of ourselves, then life, God, grace – whatever you want to call it – steps in and guides us. Remember, life supports whatever supports more life.”





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